Prof. Silvio Cajiao, S.I. – Bogotà
23-03-06
PASTORAL CARE FOR DIVORCED PERSONS
WHO HAVE REMARRIED
Generally the painful decision to
separate reached by a couple who had married in Church, on the grounds of their
confession of Catholic faith, represents an option which is chosen after other
solutions have been tried but, because of the reality of human and Christian
immaturity, the lack of preparation to all the aspects pertaining to a couple’s
life (integration of the spouse’s family, emotional-sexual dimension,
co-responsibility in bringing up children, consolidation of the process of
spiritual growth which starts with the sacrament of matrimony, or of the
process within which the reality of sin and selfishness erode love and the
reality of sin is established, etc.) the couple start to take into
consideration and then decide that, for their personal psychological wellbeing
and that of their children, if there are any, physical separation is advisable.
In time new unions may be established.
The view that these relationships,
because they are irregular, cause people to be in a state of excommunication
and that they should be excluded from any kind of ecclesial participation, is
an exaggeration, as indeed His Holiness John Paul II pointed out in Familiaris consortio: " Together with the Synod, I earnestly call upon
pastors and the whole community of the faithful to help the divorced, and with
solicitous care to make sure that they do not consider themselves as separated
from the Church, for as baptized persons they can, and indeed must, share in
her life. They should be encouraged to listen to the word of God, to attend the
Sacrifice of the Mass, to persevere in prayer, to contribute to works of
charity and to community efforts in favour of justice, to bring up their
children in the Christian faith, to cultivate the spirit and practice of
penance and thus implore, day by day, God's grace. Let the Church pray for
them, encourage them and show herself a merciful mother, and thus sustain them
in faith and hope."
(n. 84).
On the other hand, with regard to
participation in the sacraments, especially the Eucharist, on the part of
people who have divorced and then remarried, or who are living in irregular
unions, what John Paul II said on the subject is extremely clear: " However, the Church reaffirms her practice,
which is based upon Sacred Scripture, of not admitting to Eucharistic Communion
divorced persons who have remarried. They are unable to be admitted thereto
from the fact that their state and condition of life objectively contradict
that union of love between Christ and the Church which is signified and
effected by the Eucharist. Besides this, there is another special pastoral
reason: if these people were admitted to the Eucharist, the faithful would be
led into error and confusion regarding the Church's teaching about the
indissolubility of marriage. Reconciliation
in the sacrament of Penance which would open the way to the Eucharist, can only
be granted to those who, repenting of having broken the sign of the Covenant
and of fidelity to Christ, are sincerely ready to undertake a way of life that
is no longer in contradiction to the indissolubility of marriage. This means,
in practice, that when, for serious reasons, such as for example the children's
upbringing, a man and a woman cannot satisfy the obligation to separate, they
"take on themselves the duty to live in complete continence, that is, by
abstinence from the acts proper to married couples."" (n. 84).
This provides an indication of the
fundamental importance of the preparation to be provided to people who are
about to be married concerning the dimension of the great sacrament they have
chosen for the day of their marriage.
By virtue of my bond with the
Equipes de Notre Dame (or Our Lady's Teams), I wish to mention an initiative
which has been quite successful in Brazil and which has now been adopted also
in other countries of Latin America; it is called “Mas pareja” (more couple)
and couples who find themselves in the position we have just described, or live
in irregular unions although there is no obstacle to marriage, are urged to
discover, or rather rediscover, all the aspects of the great sacrament that
reflects Christ’s union with the Church.